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No. 134
Here's the problem as I see it (with the caveat that I'm slightly intoxicated and therefore am impaired mentally and phyically.)
Positive reinforcement takes time. The premise of my argument is that people don't talk to people, but mental images they construct based on their experiences of a given person or entity. In essence, people aren't interrupting you, but an idea of a person that accepts interruption. Changing that suddenly will be met with resistance because no one will enjoy being forced to reevalute their perceptions of life.
The trick is to provide minor but repetitive inconvenience to them whenever the don't do what you want. Each person is different and will require a slightly different tactic. Also, the process will be long term, but long term change is usually the most effective. You must also identify what makes the target feel positive as well. Remember, it's difficult to hate those who make you feel positive. Make sure people had a reason to FEEL well of you. The repetitive negativity (your effort to stop them from engaging in unwanted behavior) will be something they begin to seek to remove to maximize their positive experience. See what I did there? The target starts to effect change on its own in its quest for a positive experience. This effects permanent change, because it comes from within.
I'm a little too drunk to expand on this, but you're a smart guy. You'll figure the rest out on your own. And, quite frankly, you should.
Let me know if this helps. I'll sober up and come back here at some point.
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